PositiviTeens®: Workshops for Teens In The Digital Age

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The Problem:

Today’s teens are more isolated and marginalized than ever before, even though they may seem “connected” through the internet and social media. Why then are teens experiencing such high rates of depression? Why are mood disorders becoming so commonly seen in the high school and college-age populations? How do we raise our children to be positive in such a negative world? Can we teach teens the skills and mindset to be happy?

For more than two decades, I have worked with teens whose lives became intertwined with virtual reality games and chat rooms, including the predecessors of the current forms of social media. Today, when I speak to school psychologists about the number one issue they encounter with distressed teens, it usually relates to social media. The significant issues school psychologists report about the source of referrals on campus involve bullying and exclusion stemming from social media. Why has social media become such a problem for teens? First, realize that the average adolescent spends at least 20 to 24 hours per week on their cell phones. This translates into one day per week lost to cell phone activity. A recent study by the Pew Research Center (“How Parents and Teens Navigate Screen Time and Device Distractions’ 2018) found that 54% of teens say they spend too much time on their cellphones, yet two-thirds of parents express concern over their teens screen times. At the same time, parents must confront their own issues of device-related dependency and distraction.

The Impact on Development:

Two thousand years ago, Romans gathered in the great Colosseum to witness drama, athletics, judgement, punishment, and all kinds of public spectacles. Today, our kids hold the “Roman Colosseum” in the palm of their hands with their cell phones. In a “Snap”, “Tweet”, or text, their lives can be altered by something posted. Add to this matrix of stress, the content of material our teens may be viewing – visual and written content that is often negative and cynical. No wonder there are popular apps for editing and photo-shopping images into a preferred self image. So many teens experience anxiety and feel pressure to “fit in”, “not miss out”, or to live up to the images they see on social media.

The other impact on cognitive and emotional development relates to the “apps”, themselves. Many popular “apps”, as well as computer based educational games, were initially developed as consumer applications. You swipe and choose, or swipe and buy. The quick, swipe right or left, games are good examples. As a Clinical Neuropsychologist, this concerns me because I am witnessing a generation of kids engaging in quick response-reaction type activities online. In essence, they are being trained to become more reactive and impulsive, rather than proactive in decision behaviors. Along with this, psychologists are looking at the “Tinder” effect on quick reactions in decision making patterns in young adults.

What Can Be Done?

First, recognize key warning signs of your teen’s overuse of the internet, video games, or cell phones. Try monitoring their cell phone use in terms of time and data spent. Be alert to how this may be impacting school performance. Is homework late? Have grades fallen? Pay attention to your teen’s social well being, including friendships changing or if your teen seems more isolated. Would your teen prefer to be alone and online, rather than be with friends or family. Has your teen dropped out of activities? The other behavior to recognize involves sleep patterns. Often, this may include staying up late to be scrolling through social media or engaged with the phone long past bedtime. Recognize how reactive your teen may become when you try to set limits on phone or video game usage. Also, recognize how you may be avoiding setting limits or addressing concerns because you fear your own child’s anger. Finally, take stock of your own cell phone or computer dependency, recognizing how your behaviors may be contributing to the problem.

In my PositiviTeens® workshops, I help teens, parents and teachers develop strategies to counteract some of the negative communication and decision-making styles shaping our relationships. The workshops include a review of recent neuroscience on the impact of the digital age on cognitive -social development, mood, and decision-making. The second half of my workshops include teaching evidenced-based Positive Psychology strategies to foster a growth mindset, effective stress response, strengthening communication skills, and writing a “positive code” for your cognitive style.

Sherry Kelly, PhD, is the Chair of the Parenting & Education Group  and the Co-Chair of the Ukraine Task Force of the Mental Wellness Society-International. Dr Kelly and her daughter, Kaitlyn, are the co-founders of PositiviTeens®.  Kaitlyn is the Global Youth Ambassador for the Mental Wellness Society.

About the Author

Dr. Sherry S. Kelly, PhD

Dr. Sherry S. Kelly, PhD

Sherry Skyler Kelly, PhD, is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and Clinical Neuropsychologist with more than 30 years experience in the field of child development. She is the founder of PositiviTeens® workshops that bring together the science of Neuropsychology with the powerful evidence-based strategies of Positive Psychology.

Dr. Kelly’s clinical research experience included 8 years at New York Hospital in the Department of Pediatrics. While at New York Hospital and Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center, Dr. Kelly developed innovative, multi-disciplinary, intervention and rehabilitation programs. Dr. Kelly was well know for her work with children challenged by learning differences, autism, and developmental delays. Her research included a groundbreaking longitudinal study of the first generation of teens and young adults to survive beyond the medical life expectancy of a Thalassemia-Major.

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Today’s teens are more isolated and marginalized than ever before, even though they may seem “connected” through the internet and social media. Why then are teens experiencing such high rates of depression? Why are mood disorders becoming so commonly seen in the high school and college-age populations? How do we raise our children to be positive in such a negative world? Can we teach teens the skills and mindset to be happy?

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